Some people seem to have all the luck in relationships. Their spouse is loyal and devoted to them. Then there are your relationships. You can't remember the last time that you were in a relationship where he didn't cheat on you. Why is it that you always seem to pick the men that can't be faithful? And what can you do to stop falling into relationships with them? Three key factors can help you keep cheaters out of your life and allow Mr. Right to enter in.

by WendyBridger

Some people seem to have all the luck in relationships. Their spouse is loyal and devoted to them. Then there are your relationships. You can't remember the last time that you were in a relationship where he didn't cheat on you. Why is it that you always seem to pick the men that can't be faithful? And what can you do to stop falling into relationships with them? Three key factors can help you keep cheaters out of your life and allow Mr. Right to enter in.

First and foremost, you need to learn to be comfortable with yourself. All too often, people seek a romantic relationship to feel better about themselves or to avoid being alone. Entering into a relationship for either of these reasons often leads to heartache. Adding someone to your life when you are insecure with who you are and what you want out of life only complicates your life.

Not to mention, cheaters commonly prey on people who don't esteem themselves highly. Why? Generally because women with low self esteem are more liable to deal with more because they don't believe they ought to have any better. It is so vital that you feel good about who you are and know you merit a great man before letting someone into your life.

Second, you need to be aware of what type of guy you need and what strengths you have to offer to a relationship. Obviously, you want a man who is trustworthy. But often infidelity is more of an indicator that a relationship is already troubled. By understanding what you need in a partner and knowing what you bring to a relationship, you will be able to enter into a relationship that has a high likelihood of success. Instead of constantly working through differences, you can spend the time helping each other and your relationship grow. This will help you turn towards each other for love and support instead of searching for it elsewhere.

As a final point, it is essential that you listen to your head, not just your heart. Frequently, women get into relationships with incompatible men because of their emotions. There naturally is something alluring about risky types of men or men who are not compatible. But allowing them into your life and then anticipating commitment or happiness with them is illogical. You must make a conscious choice when you chose your romantic partner. If you allow purely your emotions to guide you, you often choose wrong. But with improved self opinion and understanding of what you need, you can direct your heart to the man you can be happy with.

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