Body language is crucial to attraction. Eye contact, being a part of body language, is often overlooked though, as a substantial parcel of body language. There is a lot more to flirting and sending the right message than batting a pretty eyelash, but the idea is right!

by SarahLove

Body language is crucial to attraction. Eye contact, being a part of body language, is often overlooked though, as a substantial parcel of body language. There is a lot more to flirting and sending the right message than batting a pretty eyelash, but the idea is right!

Holding someone's gaze for longer than they hold yours sends out a VERY powerful signal of attraction and intent. It's not a staring contest - it's a fine-tuned way of giving him a great signal he may not even CONCIOUSLY recognize.

So to use this in flirtation and attraction - if you see a man who (literally) catches your eye - do not be the one to break the eye contact first. It seems uncomfortable at first - most women are very USED to looking away first. But if you want to up his level of attraction - hold your eye contact with him.

Since most women seem incapable of doing that - it is something he is going to notice about you right away. For a man - different is good when it comes to attraction. Your gaze will intrigue him, and his curiosity is exactly what you want.

As with anything, though practice makes perfect. Go somewhere public or take a walk down the street. Practice looking every single guy you see right in the eye, until he looks the other way. Keep practicing until you get COMFORTABLE with this - and that may take a while!

Remember, though, you are not trying to be more POWERFUL than he is, or stare him down like some kind of creepy freak. So try to keep it natural, just direct. If you are talking to a guy - look away every once in a while - that's fine. Just show him from the start that you are not intimidated by him or unsure of yourself.

If the dialogue continues and you've made some good eye contact, try then breaking the eye contact by glancing away and possibly chatting with someone else or letting yourself be diverted by something else. Then, look back at him after a short while. This "start and stop" interplay is very exhilarating for men, and gives them time to watch you and want your attention again.

On your first date with this guy - change things up a little for him. Act like "one of the guys", a little more friendly with him and less flirty - keep him on his toes and maybe a little unsure of your attraction level to him. This will make him work harder to try to keep you around, and will also bolster the attraction between you.

This kind of "attraction foreplay" will really do a lot to keep him interested in you and keep him coming back for more. The last thing you want is for him to get bored or complacent - so keep him on his toes and guessing!